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Anger is a normal emotion which we all experience from time to time. Situations in life can at times be upsetting, stressful or frustrating, and anger is a common emotional reaction to these situations. But it is how you handle your anger that is important if you wish to lead a balanced and fulfilling life.
Uncontrolled anger can have a devastating impact on your life and the lives of those around you. Uncontrolled anger can include:
- feeling easily agitated in common situations
- seeing red when you don’t get your way
- picking fights
- making hurtful remarks
- feelings of aggression towards others
- reacting violently to a situation (throwing items or punching someone)
- furious emotions or outbursts
- passive anger, such as engaging in sarcasm or giving someone the ‘silent treatment’
Angry feelings can be based on unfounded fears and anxieties, or they can be emotional reactions to a real sense of threat or dissatisfaction. No matter the trigger, when your anger threatens to overwhelm you or lead you to hurt yourself or others, or you find yourself feeling angry a lot of the time, or reacting strongly to trivial incidents, then you risk alienating your family, friends and colleagues and living a dissatisfied life.
What causes anger?
A variety of life’s circumstances can cause anger. Most commonly, they include:-
- Stress, including financial stress, work-related stress or stress associated with family life
- Recalling negative memories can trigger feelings of anger
- Fear or danger (real or imagined) can provoke angry responses
- Jealousy or resentment
- Feeling out of control in a particular situation
What is anger?
Psychologists generally understand anger to have three main components, as described below:
- Psychological Anger refers to your actual emotions or feelings of anger. These can range from mild feelings of dissatisfaction or annoyance through to passionate feelings of fury or rage.
- Biological Anger refers to the physiological reactions which the body experiences when a person is angry e.g. increased heart rate, and
- Cognitive Anger refers to the thoughts and beliefs that accompany your feelings of anger, e.g. thoughts which provide rationalizations for your angry feelings.
What makes you angry?
Have you ever:
- Slammed a door at home or at work when you are frustrated;
- Screamed at your partner because they haven’t done the dishes;
- Slapped your child when your child spills her drink;
- Yelled at a store salesperson because of a long queue or slow service;
- Started a fight at a pub
If you have displayed any of these or similar behaviours, it is worthwhile thinking about where these responses came from. In situations where anger is inappropriately displayed or disproportionately felt, the trigger for the anger is not always as obvious as it might first seem.
Take as an example a parent’s anger of a spilt drink. Is it the small mess which really infuriates the parent or are there perhaps underlying causes of the angry response? Perhaps the parent is suffering from high levels of stress, perhaps they have had a bad day at work, or the kids have been unsettled, perhaps they lack sleep and feel exhausted, perhaps they have a past in which they were abused, neglected or ridiculed, and they have never learned how to handle their emotions?
Often it is not the person, or the actual event you are facing which makes you feel angry, but rather it’s the way you think and feel, based on your past experiences, which create angry feelings and negative responses. If you can become aware of the triggers, and you can develop strategies for calming your response to those triggers, then you may go a long way to avoiding angry outbursts.
.How to manage anger – anger management tips & techniques
Psychologists consider that there are three main ways to handle anger. These are:
- controlling your anger – using assertive rather than aggressive behaviour, using a calm tone of voice, verbalizing your feelings.
- suppressing your anger – acknowledging the anger but converting it into constructive behaviour.
- calming strategies – calming your external behaviour and your internal reactions so that the angry feelings are diluted. Techniques used by psychologists include visualisation, counting to 10, meditation, breathing exercises and physical activity.
Counselling for Anger Management
with an experienced counsellor or psychologist can assist you to:-
- acknowledge and better understand your symptoms
- learn techniques for controlling your angry responses (e.g. calming methods, assertive communication)
- understand the underlying causes of your angry responses
This information is brought to you by Sydney Anger Management Counselling.
To make a booking with one of our professional counsellors or psychologists, contact us on Tel: (02) 8002 1040. We welcome your enquiry.